How Important is Sex in a Relationship?

5th March, 2024

When it comes to a relationships there are numerous factors that contribute to the strength and longevity of a partnership and it’s not uncommon for people to put sex near the top of the list. But just how important is sex* in a relationship?

Sexuality is a fundamental aspect of human nature, and when expressed within partnership, it can foster intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional closeness. Studies have shown that couples who maintain a satisfying sex life often report higher levels of overall relationship satisfaction.

But beyond the physical act itself, sexual intimacy can often serve as a means of communication, allowing partners to express love, emotions, and affection in a unique and profound way. Sex can a language and transcend what can often express what we’re able to say.

‘Happy fulfilling relationships that don’t feature sex exist.  There is no right or wrong way to be- only the way that works for you and your relationship’

However, it’s essential to recognise that the significance of sex in a relationship can vary greatly from one couple to another. While some may place a high value on sexual compatibility, others may prioritise emotional intimacy and companionship. Happy fulfilling relationships that don’t feature sex exist.  There is no right or wrong way to be- only the way that works for you and your relationship.

In relationships where sex is part of the set up people to tend become het up with frequency and base the quality of their sex lives on how many times they have sex. The amount number of times per week becomes the focal point of importance and you could say that this kinda misses the point. We become obsessed with quantity over quality. Imagine if you had satisfying pleasurable sex once a month as opposed to average underwhelming sex once a week. Maybe that would feel quite different?

While sex is an integral aspect of many relationships, its importance is ultimately subjective and dependent on the unique dynamics of each partnership. Some form of sexual incompatibility is common (and normal) in relationships .

Sex Therapy can help you to reach a compromise that works for everyone.

*Sex refers to ALL forms of intimate contact not just penetration