Every autistic person is unique, experiencing the world in their own distinct way. From my perspective, autistic relationships and autistic sex can exhibit differences in how they look, feel, and function compared to neurotypical relationships. This often necessitates the adaptation or complete reworking of traditional relationship therapy tools. If you are autistic it can be useful to work with an autistic therapist.
Navigating sexual intimacy within the autism spectrum may involve addressing sensory sensitivities, communication challenges, or navigating confusion around gender and sexual orientation. The early stages of building and maintaining relationships may require a significant amount of “reading between the lines,” and for autistic individuals, the uncertainty and waiting can be particularly challenging.
It’s crucial to recognise the immense diversity within the autism spectrum, meaning your experience of sex and relationships is uniquely yours. However, finding tailored resources may pose an extra challenge.
As a sex and relationship therapist, I can assist you in understanding more about yourself and how being autistic manifests in your sex life. I’m also here to facilitate difficult conversations between partners.
My approach affirms and welcomes neurodivergence, rejecting the medical model, and embracing the neurodiversity paradigm. I welcome and encourage any personal adjustments needed to help you feel more comfortable—whether it’s keeping the camera off or being in your comfy pyjamas; it’s all okay.
