My Story
Neurodivergent Psychosexual Therapist | COSRT-accredited | Level 7 Diploma in Clinical Sexology
I was the first person in my family to go to university and spent the first part of my career working in university operations, including roles at some of the world’s leading universities. I loved the pace, problem-solving and variety, but eventually realised I was good at a life that didn’t necessarily feel like the right life for me.
Burnout prompted me to rethink what I wanted from work and from life. That eventually led me into therapy — a path that, like much of my life, hasn’t been entirely straightforward. Along the way, I’ve learned a lot about what happens when we try to fit ourselves into lives, relationships and expectations that don’t quite fit us.
Discovering Neurodivergence
During my training and personal therapy, I discovered that I am autistic and ADHD. Understanding myself through a neurodivergent lens changed the way I thought about work, relationships, sensory experiences, overwhelm — and sex.
It also shaped the way I work. I’m particularly interested in the things that can sit underneath sexual and relationship difficulties: sensory differences, communication, masking, overwhelm, nervous system regulation and the expectations we absorb about how relationships and sex are supposed to work.
Finding What Works
I’ve never been particularly good at fitting myself into neat boxes. My career, life and relationships haven’t followed a conventional path, and I think that’s one of the reasons I’m passionate about helping people work out what actually works for them. You don’t have to fit somebody else’s idea of how a life, relationship or sex life should look. There isn’t one right way to be a person, have a relationship or have sex.
As a step-parent, I also understand some of the joys and complexities of family life. I bring my lived experience into the therapy room alongside my professional experience and training.
My role isn’t to tell you what your life should look like. It’s to help you understand yourself, your relationships and what you want, so you can make choices that feel right for you and ultimate live a more connected and full life.
Therapy can be a space to stop trying to fit for a while.
You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what’s wrong or have everything figured out. We can start where you are and work out together what’s going on, what you need and what you’d like to be different.
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