How many dates should you go on before having sex?

8th February, 2024

How many dates should you go on before having sex? We seem to be a species that’s obsessed with numbers, timing and made up rules. In the world of modern dating, the question of how many dates one should go on before having sex is often a topic of internal and external debate.

I recognise it’s potentially idealistic to neaten this up but hey I want to try. Navigating a new human alongside yourself is messy business but perhaps reframing the issue will help you to reach your magic number. Rather than adhering to societal norms or arbitrary rules about when to have sex with someone maybe we should be questioning why we’re feeling the pressure? And whose rulebook are we playing by?

The reality is is that everyone is different and the pace at which a relationship progresses will vary based on personal comfort levels and emotional connection. While some may feel a strong connection after a few dates, others might prefer a more gradual approach, allowing trust and understanding to flourish over time. Ultimately, the journey toward physical intimacy is a personal one, and there is no universal playbook despite what society tells us.

Self awareness is key to developing confidence in yourself and your decisions. If you’re feeling the pressure sex therapy can help you find your answers to the questions above so you can tune in, stay as safe as you can and feel confident in your decision.

Book a free call with me today and we can chat some more.